Though out of context,
Few years back it had happend to me.
My wife used to ask me how much I made in trading when the day closes. When i made profits she used to give hot coffee and loving praise. When the day closes in negative, no coffee and hatred.
So, I decided to earn my coffee and loving praise at any cost. I used to book profits as soon as i see some on the trade leaving behind RR and the edge behind. The days were smooth and i continued to have my due hot coffee and loving praise from my wife.
One day, the unexpected happend. The trade went to sharp reversal and i could not get out in time. I almost wiped out my account. But, how to tackle the situation with my wife. I lied with my wife that i made a small profit. I got my due hot coffee and loving praise as usual.
But this has changed my psychology. It has started blinding me with actual results of trade. It took a while for me to come to normal psychological level. I realised that it was not for hot coffee and loving praise, that i am trading for. It is for profits nothing else. I decided not to link those things with my trading results.
After several years, now my wife can not make out whether i made profit or loss on each day by seeing my mood or facial expressions. I am now in complete balance of emotions irrespective of losses or profits.
Now, i am getting my hot coffee and loving praise. And this time this is not linked to my trading results.